Tonight's plan
Who's on this date?
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What a night
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A date night for married couples
The D.A.T.E. rules
Drop the to-do listWork, money, and chores can wait until tomorrow.
All eyes on each otherSilence your phones, except the one running tonight's date.
Talk kindlyNo complaints or criticism tonight.
Enjoy the momentLaugh, flirt, and have fun together.
- Never use your phone while driving. Let the passenger run the date night.
- Every activity is optional. Skip anything that isn't a good fit for you.
- Check food allergies, and follow the rules of places you visit.
- These date nights are for fun and connection, not a substitute for counseling.
If you don't feel safe at home, you're not alone. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233, text START to 88788, or visit thehotline.org. In an emergency, call 911.
Mission prep
Every great mission starts with planning. Check these off ahead of time.
Name your agent
Every agent needs a codename, and tonight your spouse gets to create yours. Pick an animal that fits them and their birth month (each month gives them a secret color). Then add a word that describes them.
Agents, your mission tonight: slip away togetherstay in together, outsmart each other over dinner, and come home more connected than when you left.and end the night more connected than when it started. Trust no one… except each other.
Every great partnership starts with a seven-second kiss.
Then head to your rendezvous point.
Then meet at the safe house table for dinner.
Go undercover
Before you orderBefore dinner starts, each agent secretly gets three missions to pull off during dinner, without the other catching on.
Complete your missions before dessert. If your spouse catches you in the act and calls it out, that mission is blown!
Crack the code
Take turns writing a secret note for each other. The app scrambles it into code, and your spouse has to crack it.
"Set me as a seal over your heart, as a seal upon your arm."SONG OF SONGS 8:6 (BSB)
The interrogation
Two truths and a lie. The agent in the hot seat says three things about the topic. One is a lie. Can the other agent find it?
Keep your poker face! Play as many rounds as you like.
Mission debrief
Order dessert.Dinner's done. Time to confess! Reveal your secret missions and tap the ones you pulled off without getting caught. Then write up the official mission report.
Recruit another couple
Before you leaveBefore the night ends, pass this mission to another married couple and dare them to go Top Secret.
Spot another married couple on a date? Let them scan this code.Next time you see a married couple you love, let them scan this code.
https://www.pocketdatenight.com/top-secret-date-night
Post about your night and invite everyone to plan one of their own.
Instagram doesn't allow links in captions to be tapped, so add the link to your bio or story, or just share the photo and hashtags.
The getaway
Mission complete
Every mission ends with a smooth getaway. Cue the spy soundtrack and debrief on the drive home.Every mission ends with something sweet. Bring out dessert, cue the spy soundtrack, and debrief together.
- What was your favorite moment of tonight's mission?
- Which of my secret missions did you almost catch?
- What's one mission you'd love for us to take on together this year?
Let the passenger pick the music, so the driver keeps eyes on the road.
Dim the lights and let the music set the mood.
Agents, your last assignment: end the night with a kiss at the front door.a slow dance to the spy soundtrack, ending with a kiss. Mission accomplished.
